Friday, April 3rd, 2015

Journaling Through Grief


112410 164

The other day, an idea came to mind about how a journal could be used to help someone going through the grieving process. Keep in mind, that it isn’t always the passing of a loved one that causes one to grieve. You can grieve the loss of a job or of a bad habit. When something was once in your life and suddenly isn’t, people experience grief.

These were my initial thoughts when conceptualizing this post:

“When there is no one to talk to, or when you don’t want to talk to someone. Allowing yourself to grieve. Taking the time to remember – all the little details. Writing how you feel- good or bad. Writing in a conversational style with the deceased – for closure. Asking questions, asking for guidance. Telling them you loved them. Allowing yourself to be angry with them. Letting go of them. Writing what you could never say. Saying I’m sorry. Forgiving them. Allowing yourself to fully feel.”  

Take a look through some of the quotes and links I’ve selected below which talk about the use of a journal as an aid during the grieving process. 

“Anger, sadness, regret, fear, loneliness, confusion, hopelessness and helplessness are our companions on the grief journey. Putting words on paper allows us to express those painful feelings rather than stuffing them and carrying them around inside of us. We can pour our hearts out in a journal any time we feel like it. Our journals are always there to receive our thoughts and feelings.”

– Journaling the Bereavement Journey at Hospice Yukon

“Conventional wisdom tells us that writing a journal in times of catastrophic trauma is a good and helpful thing to do. The “fine black lines/ on starchy white paper” are kind and patient. They witness without judgment, contain without confinement, fill up and become more in the process of catharsis.”

– Managing Grief through Journal Writing at

“Grief journaling does not have to be hard or complicated. If words seem to fail, jotting a sentence or two may get you started and eventually lead to more.”

– Journaling for Healing Grief & Loss at

“With journaling remember there are no rules, it’s your journal. You don’t even have to write, you can paint, color, glue and create. You can use one or many. If the word itself turns you off, call it a scrapbook instead.”

– A Grief Journal for the Non-Writer at

“Journaling practice can be a valuable tool for doing grief work, as well as helping to create and support a more self-aware life.”

– Suggestions for Grief Journaling at

“Journaling is a form of self-expression that comes with no rules, boundaries or expectations that anyone else will ever read what you write. But by getting those thoughts out of your head and onto paper, you open your mind to valuable insight and healing.”

– Journaling through Grief: Finding Your Relief Valve at Heartache to Healing

“I tell the people in my classes to write. I tell them the blank empty page is like a non-judgmental all-loving God or Goddess, able to hear your every word, thought, feeling and prayer. Capable of turning tears into strength, sadness into laughter, sorrows to joy. For when you write, recovery time is reduced and healing is quickened.”

– Journaling through Grief at CreativeWriteNow

Additional articles for you to read: 

A Week’s Worth of Journaling Prompts: The Journey of Grief at Writing Through Life

Grief Journaling at

Writing Through Your Grief

Journaling During Grief at KoTaPress

How To Journal Through Grief – Part I: Writing is Cathartic at Elizabeth Welles

Journaling Through Grief at The Writer’s Digest

One thought on “Journaling Through Grief

  1. This is exactly what I did when my parents died. I had 2 years of grief and panic and overload as I tried to deal with everything alone. It gave me a place to jot down suggestions where I might get help or pour out my fear that I wasn’t making the right choices since there was virtually no one to turn to.

    The U.S. is not particularly well-equiped to deal with the elderly, especially those without extended families and it puts untenable burdens on sole caregivers. Journals may literally be the only source of comfort when dealing with soulless bureaucracy.

Leave a Comment:

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *


A modern notebook since 1934

Buy Rhodia